What to do if you want more than hookup?

After swiping profiles on a hookup app for a few minutes, you suddenly come across a pretty girl’s profile and you swiped right, that means you like her. Luckily you are matched and she likes you too. After a few messages back and forth, you asked her out. First a coffee and then to a bar. Maybe just one drink, you thought, but you end up in your apartment naked after having a perfect sexual experience with her. It is supposed to be just a one night hookup, but you find yourself completely fell for her after it. You are thinking about how to turn your hookup to a date. Have you ever been in such situation before in your life? If you are, how do you usually handle it? Here I would like to offer my suggestion to you based on my personal experience.

You might be wondering if you should call her again. First, we should figure out if your feelings are real or just a phase. Usually, it takes one week to find out. During that week, do not contact her. Just be usual. You can also find another person to have one night dating with. Try to distract yourself away from that person. If you still feel the same after that week, maybe you are serious and you should make your contact and talk about it together. If not, then it is just a phase, there is nothing to worry about.

Are you ready for a relationship? I know you didn’t expect to meet someone special on that hookup apps, but you did. Are you ready for it? Before you answer, you might want to know what it really means to be in a relationship. You might be required to be committed in a monogamous relationship. You will not be able to be connected with other people other than your partner. You might be restricted from certain activities you used to enjoy very much just because your partner doesn’t want you to go. Sometimes, you are going to put his/her feelings before yours to make him/her happy. There are many other things might be very different from being single and being in a relationship.

Your heart and mind need to reach an agreement first. This is a rival between sense and sensibility. Maybe your mind tells you not to do it, while your heart is pushing you towards it. In this case, no one can tell you what to do. You must choose between following your heart or mind. If you choose to follow your heart, you must prepare your mind for what is coming next. If you are ready to abandon that thought and follow your mind, then it might hurt your feelings. There is no compromised way.

Here are what I would like to say if you are a person accidentally fall for one person who you are supposed to have one night hookup with. I hope it will be useful.